This next week they’ll celebrate 40 years of marriage and they’re still as much in love as ever. They hold all the love I… hope to attain in my own marriage and have taught me so much about what a marriage should be.
Nate and I have been married almost 5 years now. Our relationship has always felt so effortless like a dream, but adding two babies to the mix has brought on a few challenges. Raising a family can make your life so much richer but it can also throw it for a spin, requiring some adjusting in all departments.
Through it all, Nate and I have managed well and I’m thankful for the lessons in marriage my parents have shown me over the years. Here are some of them:
1. Do stuff together. Sometimes that means doing things you don’t necessarily enjoy. That’s what friends do, and ultimately, your spouse is your best friend.
2. Show affection. Hold hands, kiss and touch each other. Act like newlyweds, even after you’ve been married for 40 years.
3. Forgive each other and never go to bed angry.
4. You don’t always have to share the same opinion but you do have to share respect for theirs.
5. Neither of you are perfect but you can be perfect for each other.
6. Act as a team. Work together, root for each other and keep each other’s best interest in mind.
7. Sometimes love takes sacrifice. Mom and Dad certainly sacrificed a lot for us kids and I know they’ve sacrificed a lot for each other. It’s all worth it in the end.
8. Say I love you but don’t stop there. Remind the other why you love them and what makes them special. Even after all these years, I still hear my mom telling my dad how handsome he is.
9. Never forget the power of love. Show love, live love. Love each other, love your family. Love. Always more love.
10. Love is something that continues to build over time when you treat each other well, build each other up and take care of each other.
Finding the right partner makes all of these a lot more effortless but even then, life can throw us a curveball (or two) and it’s easy to lose focus of what’s important. My parents have had their own share of curveballs and they have shown side by side, anything can be overcome.
They have proven a marriage can get better with time and I’ve already seen that in work. Just as I’m sure my parents wouldn’t trade what they have now for what they had 20, 30 or 40 years ago, I wouldn’t trade what Nate and I have now for what we had three or four years ago.
Raising a family together will continue to bring a host of challenges to our marriage but we have some good role models to show us how it’s done.
Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!