When I was younger I thought my parents were lame for not having more of a “life.” My brother, sister and I were the center of their world, followed by their careers which they both can be admired for. I’m lucky to say we spent a lot of time together as a family.
Even in high school when both my siblings were off at college, I remember going to movies with my parents at the Mac Theater on Friday nights. On a good night we’d have pizza at 3rd St. Pizza Co first. Between sporting events, school functions, or even just the mental space we took up in their brains, I’m pretty sure we filled much of their their life’s capacity.
I always wondered what they would do once we were all grown. Well, now I am grown and I know what they’re doing. They’re still spending time with me, teaching and helping me and my own children as well.
Nate has been working a lot these last few weeks. His long days are made longer by a grueling commute. The last couple cherished weekends were gobbled up by work and his absence has been recognized. I’m thankful for his career and support that allows me to stay home with our kids right now. He works hard and carries so much burden and weight so I can focus on our children. This current grind is temporary and things should get back to normal soon.
Thankfully, in the meantime and as always, my parents have been here for us. The last few weeks have taken us through adventures, a bbq, bike rides, they’ve given advice, morale boosting, babysitting and this past weekend they even helped me wrangle our chickens to to deliver for butchering.
All their help has kept my sanity in check, and best of all, Karson and Lucy have had plenty of time to spend with their Nona and Papa. I’m happy our children will grow up knowing their Grandparents. Karson and Lucy’s lives are clearly better and richer because of them.
The family/community structure is so much different than it used to be. The world is at our fingertips yet it’s easy to become isolated. I think we’re the exception that we live so near our parents. Since starting a family, I see how valuable this is, and I’m not just talking about free babysitting.
It takes a village to raise a child and I’m so glad my parents are in mine. I don’t know what I’d do without them, today and everyday. Second to Nate, they know me better than anyone and have certainly been more influential than anyone. I hope Karson and Lucy will be able to say the same for me in later years.
I can also see how my parents were anything but “lame.” I know what I’m doing is important work because my parents showed me so. And now I see they did it all because that’s just what you do. That’s what family is for.
My parents have taken on a few more hobbies in their “experienced” years but like Nate’s parents as well, it’s obvious they still put us first. And that’s a good thing. We need them, perhaps just as much as they need us.